9 Ways To Support A Friend With Depression
2. Send a postcard or a card saying you’re there for them
I started getting seriously depressed around the age of 14.
One nice thing a friend did was send me a postcard with a cartoon on one side saying ‘you can call me any time’, with a message and her number on the back.
I never called her, but having that physical reminder on my desk that someone cared was comforting.
3. Be funny
The stupider, the better. If you’re not funny, try and remember their favourite comic or film director and watch something with them.
They may not be up to laughing yet, but it may help.
4. Ask if they want a hug
The asking part is important – some people will hate uninvited physical contact.
5. Sit with them
For whatever reason, they may not mentally be in a place where they can talk.
Luckily, thanks to modern technology you can do all kinds of things together and not talk – watch TV, watch a film, knit. The fact that you’re there will be noted.
6. Listen when they talk
Some people chatter to fill nervous silences. This is understandable but not very helpful. Even worse is talking over them when they do speak.
7. Don’t be negative about their course of treatment
Not everyone will choose to take meds or have counselling but, either way, this isn’t your choice to make. It’s up to them and their doctor to work out what course of treatment they prefer.
Casting aspersions on certain drugs or making negative comments about support groups and therapy isn’t very supportive.
8. Keep asking them out
They may not feel like it; they may ignore you but remember, they’re ill. Add a diary reminder to your phone if you need to – just keep in touch with them and keep asking them to social events.
9. Just be nice
Not patronising, not awkward, just nice. Just be yourself. It’s good to be reminded of normality when things are dark and gloomy in your head.
Words by Yvette Caster