How do I know if CBT is for me?
Did you know our brains are wired towards negative thinking?
This is known as negativity bias. It’s easier for us to be pessimistic than optimistic, and that’s because our brains are simply built with a greater sensitivity towards unpleasant news, events etc. That goes back to old survival mode days when the human brain needed to prepare for more danger. But, this is now, and often there is no real threat so we shouldn’t just accept these negative thinking patterns and outlooks on life. The diagram below represents the relationship between our thoughts, feelings and behaviours, which form the foundations of CBT therapy:
Accepting that you may need professional help is not easy. Often, many people struggle for years without seeking the coping strategies they need to live a full life.
For some, what they’re dealing with is too raw to talk about, and in that case, CBT may be a better option a bit further down the line. Everyone is different, everyone has some problem they are carrying around with them, however mild or extreme, and some are just not accepting of therapy.
You have to want to get better, you have to want to talk through what’s bothering you, and you have to want to work through the connections in your body and mind to allow CBT to be fully effective. You also have to adopt a realistic recovery journey and take each day at a time. For some, this is too much too soon, and we fully respect that. But for many, it’s a straightforward (but not easy) method of developing a more helpful response to your thoughts to the stage where they don’t affect your everyday life.
CBT is a talking therapy, so the therapist you are talking to is highly trained, and BABCP accredited, to help you deal with your negative feelings. However, usually, the most impactful element of the therapy happens between your sessions. This is what makes CBT so effective over the long-term.
CBT is continuously evolving by what is called “empirical evidence” or “evidence-based-practice”, and this form of psychotherapy continually synchronises with the latest recommendations from the research suggesting what works best.
Over the years, our CBT therapists have successfully treated thousands of clients in our private CBT service, some of whom have felt exactly as you do today. You are not alone.