Are you Struggling with a Low Self Esteem?
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) focuses on your thinking errors and retrains your brain to think in a more balanced way and focus on behaviours to make them more functional.
What is a Low Self Esteem?
Self-esteem is your view of yourself, your perception of how others see you, and the thoughts and beliefs you have about yourself, your world and your future. When your perception of yourself is negative, it can lead to an overwhelming feeling of low self-worth; and you may find yourself thinking that you’re not good enough. These are not just transient, negative, automatic thoughts that we all might have from time to time, but firm ideas about yourself that keep on reoccurring.
When to seek treatment for Self Esteem
How can I tell if I am suffering from low self-esteem?
Your inner critic works hard to bring you down and prevents you from moving past negative experiences with any form of self-belief. For example, you may have just secured your dream job, however, your inner critic will work hard to convince you that this is an underserved opportunity that you're not capable of upholding.
Our inner critics are formed at childhood and are made up of the experiences we had with authority figures and our peers as we grew up. You may have been bullied or told by your teachers that you would never amount to anything. All of these factors contribute to your inner critic and make up the way you view yourself and believe in your abilities.
How CBT helps: When dealing with low self-esteem and particularly self-criticism, CBT helps us to examine how our thoughts, behaviours and beliefs may be contributing to our perceptions of ourselves and the world around us. During your CBT sessions, your therapist will work with you to identify negative patterns in your thoughts and behaviour and share evidence-based techniques that will help you silence your inner critic.
How CBT helps: Cognitive Behavioural Therapy teaches us that when we suffer from issues such as low self-esteem, we can often get stuck in an irrational belief system that only holds us back. When we take things personally, we hold a particular belief system that puts us at the centre and as the intended victim. In this instance, CBT can help by helping you view a more realistic approach on the events. Your therapist will encourage you to search for facts that support this new approach instead of relying on your previous belief system. For example, you may believe that your partner has become distant and irritable with you. Instead of subscribing to the belief that it is your fault that they are like this or that they want to break off the relationship, your CBT therapist will encourage you to consider other reasons your partner may be short tempered. Perhaps they are feeling unwell or maybe they are under immense pressure at work.
How CBT helps: CBT can help build our self-esteem by first of all enabling us to identify our negative thoughts and behaviour. Your therapist will work with you to discover some of the limiting beliefs you may have of yourself or your abilities and help you develop, new and rational beliefs about yourself. If you find yourself harshly judging the people around you, your CBT therapist will work with you to identify the source of these negative feelings and replace these with positive helpful thinking patterns that will eventually contribute to an improved view of yourself and the world around you.